Parenting is hard. We all know that. There are easier bits followed by more difficult ones. At the moment I think it’d be fair to say that we’re all in a hard stage.
The kids are at home. All the time. There’s no escape. We’re limited to going out once a day but for some (mine included) that’s not enough to blow off enough steam.
There are so many resources out there telling you how to be a parent. Scroll through your social media feeds and they’re full of schedules for you to follow during Lockdown, activities to plan, images of home classrooms. It’s overwhelming and can make you feel like you aren’t doing enough.
I want to share with you the only piece of parenting advice you’ll ever need.
It’s a goodie.
Are you ready?
You do whatever you need to do to get through this time.
That’s it. It’s simple.
If that means that you need to put the TV on more than you normally would so you can get some work done. Do it.
If that means biscuits for breakfast because you can’t face another tantrum. Do it.
If that means you skip a day of school work. Do it.
All children are going to be in the same position at the end of this. What matters is their mental health, your mental health and your relationship. This isn’t an ordinary time so it’s OK to reflect that in the rules.
I read a post from a headteacher which finished by saying that for our children this could be a time of amazing memories, spending so much time with their family, out of school, without any pressure. After reading that I decided that’s what I wanted to achieve.
Yes, we do some school work. Yes, I still have work to do. But every day we do some sort of activity – that might just be watching TV together, but it’s their choice. Yesterday they wanted to make an Easter tree so that’s what we did. Today it’s lunchtime and they’re only just dressed having eaten party rings for breakfast. So what?
Do what works for you and your family to get through this strange, unusual, stressful, turbulent time safely and happily.